SAVING YOURSELF, YOUR MONEY, AND YOUR CHILDREN DURING DIVORCE
Many people who come to see me seem to think one or all of the following myths about divorce: Divorce is going to be the answer to all my problems. Divorce will cost me money and be an unpleasant process, but after it’s final, I will be just fine and so will the kids. After …
Family holidays and get-togethers are often a catalyst for divorcing parents to bring unnecessary personal distress upon themselves, each other, and, ultimately, their children. Fortunately, the counter-defense to such a consequence is rather simple: the priority of healthy choices in self-care. A Story From My Files About the Need for Self-Care Some years ago, I was …
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The first year after a divorce can be particularly difficult as ex-spouses learn how to navigate life as divorceés. While filing for taxes may not be top-of-mind after divorce, it’s important to understand how this life change will affect your taxes, and more importantly your tax refund. Filing taxes after divorce is complicated. Here are …
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Through divorce, your ultimate focus is to not allow your children to become the real causalities. If children feel compelled through the immaturity of their divorcing parents to either choose a side or are forced to feel protective of one parent over the other, then the responsibility for the children’s heightened current distress and even …
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The most crucial change any married couple can make in their most intimate relationship is the decision to divorce. I have addressed how to create a script for the news of the divorce to help you most thoroughly and thoughtfully prepare in advance to reveal this devastating news to your children. Always remember that both parents share equal …
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Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions. Reactions Are Unique to Each Child …
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I’ve discussed Holiday Marital False Alarm Syndrome which predictably arises each year in December throughout many households. That’s why it does not come as a surprise each January when my calendar is quickly filled with divorce consultations. However, some couples are surprised by the outcome of their appointment with me. By making a divorce mediation appointment and …
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